Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Why should you, a young Muslim, be helping to bring your friends closer to Allah?

As salam alaikum, Wa rehmathullahi wa barkhathu..


After all, you've got your own struggles to deal with: trying to explain why

you pray to hostile teachers, Hijab discrimination, standing up in class

when the professor attacks Islam, dealing with parents who think you've gone

nuts because you're growing a beard, or all the other difficulties faced by

a number of practicing Muslim youth?


Islam was never meant to be an individualistic faith, reserved for the

"chosen few". Muslims have a duty to spread the Deen, and practicing Muslim

youth, whether beginners, activists or leaders have a crucial role to play.


"Allah has put them in a position that perhaps no one else is in," notes

Sheema Khan, former Muslim Youth of North America (MYNA) advisor for eastern

Canada. "They have the means to communicate with their peers, they have an

understanding of what they're going through plus they have the guidance of



Who is your childhood friend, who would rather spend Fridays at MacDonald's

than the Masjid, or your classmate who is Muslim in name and only knows that

"Muslims don't eat pork" going to listen to: the nice Imam of the Masjid who

would freak out if he saw the way they were dressed and talked or you who

may have grown up with them, joked with them, or see them everyday in



The answer is obvious: you.


Don't panic. Here are some tips and advice which can help from other

Muslims, many of whom have been there and done that:


*Tip #1: Make your intention sincere*


All work we do should ideally be for the sake of Allah. That includes the

task of bringing someone closer to Allah. That of course means this should

not be connected to arrogance, thinking you're the teacher and everyone else

should be lucky you've embarked on a crusade to save them. Guidance is from

Allah. Make Dua and make sincere efforts and remember Allah can also

misguide you if He wills (we seek refuge in Allah from that).


*Tip #2: Practice what you preach*


Not practicing what you preach is wrong and you will lose the confidence of

anyone, young or old, once they figure you out. Don't do it.


*Tip #3: Use the Qur'an and Seerah (biography of the Prophet) as Dawa guides


Read and understand those chapters of the Qur'an which talk about how the

Prophets presented the message of Islam to their people. Read the Seerah

(for some good Seerah


to see especially how the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)

brought Islam to so many different people, including young people.


As well, talk to Dawa workers, and check out books that have been written on

introducing dawa to non Muslims


*Tip #4: Talk to people as if you really don't know them


Don't assume you know someone just by looking at them. You don't know that

the Muslim girl in your homeroom who walks through the school's hallways as

if they were fashion show catwalks * *is not someone you can talk to about

Allah because she looks like a snob. Or that the Muslim guy who you've never

seen at Jumah at your university is a "bad Muslim". Maybe he was never

really taught Islam and has no idea what importance Friday prayers have in

Islam, especially for Muslim men.


*Tip #5: Smile*


Did you know the Prophet was big on smiling? But many "practicing" Muslims

seem to have "their faces on upside down" as one speaker once said-frowning

and serious.


Smiling, being polite and kind are all part of the manners of the Prophet,

which we must exercise in our daily lives. If we want to approach others

with Islam, we have to make ourselves approachable. Smiling is key to this.


But note that being approachable does not mean being flirtations with the

other gender. There are Islamic rules for how men and women should deal with

each other which have to be respected. Dawa is no excuse to have long and

private conversations and meetings with the other sex, for example. Set up a

system where someone expressing an interest in Islam is referred to someone

of the same sex.


*Tip #6: Take the initiative and hang out with them


Take the first step and invite someone you may have spoken to a couple of

times to sit at lunch together, to check out a hockey game or invite them

over for Iftar in Ramadan. Also, share difficulties, sorrows and

frustrations. Help with homework, be a shoulder to cry on when depression

hits, or just plain listen when your friend is upset, discuss common

problems and KEEP THEIR SECRETS. There are few things as annoying as a

snitch and backstabber. But an important note: if the problem is of a

serious nature, (i.e. your friend is thinking of committing suicide or is

taking drugs), notify and consult an adult immediately.


*Tip #7: Show them Islam is relevant today, right here, right now


Young people may think Islam is too "old fashioned" and not in tune with the

modern age. Prove this wrong. Show how Islam is really about relating to

Allah, which any human being can do, anywhere, anytime. Allah is always

closer to you than your jugular vein and He hears and knows everything.

Encourage friends to ask Allah's help during tests, exams, and in dealing

with problems at home with parents and siblings. Also point out how Islam

relates to teenagers: Islam gives you focus and an understanding of who you

are and where you are going, which most of "teen culture" does not.


*Tip #8: Get them involved in volunteer work with you


*If you are already involved in the community, get your friend to help out.

Ask them to make a flyer for one of your youth group's events or brainstorm

for ideas about activities to hold this school year. This involvement makes

them feel part of the Muslim community and deepens your friendship, since

you are now working together on something beneficial for both of you. Make

sure you thank them for their contribution.


*Tip #9: Ask them 4 fundamental questions


*As your friendship develops, you will notice the topics you discuss may

become more serious. You may be discussing, for instance, future goals and

plans. Khan recommends four questions to ask that can steer the topic to

Allah and Islam:


  a. Where am I going in life and what would make me really happy deep down


  b. What do I believe?

  c. Who should I be grateful to?

  d. Did I get to where I am today without the help of anyone?


*Tip #10: Emphasize praying five times a day before any other aspect of


*A person's main connection with Allah, on a daily basis, is through the

prayer five times a day. Don't emphasize any other aspect of Islam until

your friend starts making a real effort to pray five times a day. Emphasize

the direct connection one has with Allah in prayer. If they are facing a

problem, tell them to pray, and to ask Allah for help in Salah and outside

this time. When possible, make it a point to pray together during your "hang

out time". If your friend begins to pray, that is the first step to other

aspects of Islam like giving up swearing, treating parents with respect or

dressing Islamically.


*Tip# 11: Help instil confidence in adults


*Adults, like Bart Simpson's dad Homer, are considered bumbling idiots in

the eyes of "teen culture". Your job as a young Muslim is to help turn the

tables on this false and unIslamic belief. All you have to do is this: when

a Muslim adult does something good (i.e. saving someone's life, donating

money to a worthy cause, the Imam gives a good speech, taking good care of

his/her family) bring it up in the course of your conversations with your

friend and praise the adult in question. Doing this regularly may not only

change your friend's perspective, but could lead to them seeing their own

parents in a more respectful way.


*Tip #12: Support them even when they become more practicing


*Remember, just because a person starts practicing Islam more regularly,

this does not mean everything will be okay from this point onwards. There

will still be hard times, difficulties. There may be times when your friend

may have doubts about his or her newfound practice of Islam. Be there to

reassure them.



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Mujhe jannat say zyada masjid mein bethna acha lagta hai 

kyun ke jannat mein mera nafs khush hoga, 

jab ke masjid mein mera rabb khush hoga

.    Jab tum namaz na padho to matt socho ke waqt nahi mila, Balke ye socho ke tumse kaunsi galti hui ke, ALLAH ne tum ko apne saamne khada karna pasand nahi kiya.............

.    Har koi chahta hai k mujhey KAMIYABI mil jaye, lekin jab masjid sey din main 5 dafa awaz ati hai "HAYYA ALAL FALAH",, "Aao Kamiyabi ki Taraf".... to us taraf janey ki hum zehmat nahi kertey... afsos k jis cheez ko wo sari zindagi har jagah talash kar k bhi hasil nahi ker saka, wo to khud usey apney paas bula rahi hai ....... 

Zuni Ayesha

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