Hating Someone+Forgiveness +Sinner Good Mannerisms![Quran/Hadiths]
Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem
As Salaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuhu
'Be quick in the forgiveness from your Lord, and pardon (all) men - for Allah loves those who do good.'
[Surah Ali Imran; 3:133-134]
Al-Fudhail bin said:-
"Associate with those who have good behavior, for they will only call you to goodness, and accompanying them provides comfort. As for ill-mannered persons, they only call to evil.
Therefore do not associate with them, so that you save yourself from their ill conduct.
I prefer associating with a sinner who has good mannerism, to associating with a worshipper whose mannerism with people is unbecoming.
Verily, the former type ~the sinner who had good conduct in public uses caution with people,
who like him because he is easy going, while the latter, who has bad mannerism, is despised and disliked to people."
If you hate a person, you hate something in her that is part of yourself.
What isn't apart of ourselves doesn't disturb us.
Do you hate someone?
Do you really hate someone you haven't spoken to [ him or her ] for a while?
You've been blaming [him or her? ]
You're not the only one; the Muslim Ummah today is diseased with this to the extent that almost every Muslim knows another Muslim who [ he or she ] hates.
The Ummah is like a building with the Muslims as it's bricks, Brotherhood & Sisterhood the cement.
It Doesn't work without forgiveness
Alright then [ he or she ] wronged you.
lied to you!!
But !!! even in these extreme situations the Qur'an and the Hadith teach us that we have to forgive others !
[especially those who hurt us the most]
if we wish to earn Allah's forgiveness on the day of Judgment.
We have all committed many sins~
made many mistakes~
& [undoubtedly] wronged others~
we have deceived others~
we have done 'gheeba'[ backbit ]
others & perhaps lied to others.
So what makes us focus onto another's errors while we remain unconscious of our own?
Not to forgive is to live in arrogance~
and ignorance of our own shortcomings~
Forgiveness is linked with piety and God-consciousness .
Do we not know that Allah forgives those who forgive others?
Allah[ Jalla Jalaluh ] says in the Qur'an:-
And we know that Allah Himself is
[ the Most Compassionate ] and Ar-Raheem [the Most Merciful]
and that His Mercy is infinite~
and that no matter the Sin (except Shirk)
Allah is always willing to answer the person's call for forgiveness.
In fact Allah loves the tear drop that falls from the eye of one who sincerely seeks the forgiveness of his Lord.
And Allah loves us to have hearts that are ready to forgive.
The Prophet (Sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) once asked his companions:-
'Do you know what will cause you to have high walled palaces in Paradise (as a symbol of great reward) and will cause you to be raised by Allah?'
When they replied in the negative, he said,
'To be forgiving and to control yourself in the face of provocation,
to give justice to the person who was unfair and unjust to you,
to give to someone even though he did not give to you when you were in need.
and to keep connection with someone who may not have reciprocated your concern.'
Similarly the Prophet
(Sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said that:-
'the best of people are those who are slow to get angry and quick to forgive.
On the other hand the worst of people are those, he said who get angry quickly but are slow to forgive'.
The characteristic that makes a person most likely to forgive is the purity of his or her heart.
Apologies must be accepted.
The Prophet (Sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said that:-
'Whoever apologises to his brother and that apology is not accepted,then the person who refuses to accept the
apology bears the sin of one who takes
the property of another unjustly.'
If we look at the example and the character of the Prophet
(Sallallahu'alayhi wa sallam)
we can see that he was always forgiving and never showed enmity to anyone except those who waged war against him.
There was an old lady who used to throw rubbish in his way every day, on one occasion she did not throw rubbish in the street, so he decided to go and see what was the matter.
She was ill in bed, to her amazement, the Messenger of Allah
(Sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam)
came to see her and find out about her.
She then accepted Islam .
This is the example of the man whom we claim to follow.
Some might say that to forgive is a sign of weakness and humiliation, and for them it is better to be strong and preserve their honor.
But honor in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness.
'But indeed if any shows patience and forgives that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.'
[Surah Ash Shura 42:43]
If we are to be really strong then we have to be strong against Shaytaan and forgive our Brothers & Sisters, and in this way maybe Allah will decide, Insha Allah, to forgive ourselves for our many mistakes....honour in the eyes of Allah lies in Forgiveness!
My 'Salaams' To All !
Y a s m i n.
"Never Despair Of The Mercy Of Allah"
"I Want to Die With my Forehead on the Ground, The Sunnah in my Heart, Allah on my Mind, Qur'an on my Tongue, and Tears in my Eyes!"
' Son of Adam! You are nothing but a number of days, whenever